Bad Sex: Is There Such a Thing?

Is there such a thing as bad sex? If you’re female, you’re probably rolling your eyes. If you’re male and under 25, you probably thought that was an oxymoron. (Bad sex!? That’s like a bad day off work, or a bad win at the lottery.) The rest of us might have to think about it a bit: Is is safe? Does anyone get hurt? Are there unwanted consequences? What, exactly, is bad about it? There are a LOT of books out there that claim to have uncovered the reason woman (in general) aren’t as enthusiastic about sex as men, but the answers all … Continue reading

Fifty Shades of Nay

I just finished reading Fifty Shades of Grey by E.L. James and, try as I might, I couldn’t learn to like it. Like Twilight before it, I’m having a difficult time understanding how so many people (ok, mostly women, but I could be wrong) can read it without their suspension of disbelief crashing to the floor on every other page.  I had to keep scooping mine up, glueing it back together, and forcing it back into the story. Don’t get me wrong, I enjoy a good sex scene as much as the next consenting adult, and it’s a rare pleasure … Continue reading

Playing With Fire

A summer downpour has made the freeways a mess, so I’m a bit late arriving at the vintage hotel. Dusk is falling, and the parking lot is packed. My cellphone rings, but I don’t recognize the number, so I send it to voicemail and proceed to squeeze my Prius in between a massive SUV and a puddle that could be the sixth Great Lake. Huge drops of water filter through the leaves and splatter onto the windshield as I collect my belongings. I take a deep breath and then dash beneath the lush oak trees toward the hotel lobby. I … Continue reading

Done Too Soon

Warning!  This excerpt (from one of my novels currently on submission) is sexually explicit and includes adult language.  It describes actions between consenting adults (who are using birth control, even if they don’t tell you that).  If you are offended by the words breast, penis, or clit, now would be a great time to go back to reading LOLcats.  Otherwise, please enjoy.  (I would love to hear from you in the comments if you’d like to read more…) As I’m brushing my teeth, he slips in behind me—shirtless—and wraps his arms around my waist, nuzzling me on the neck and … Continue reading

Vampires & Vice

Have you read those headlines that warn: Porn Destroys Marriages or Romance Novels Ruin Relationships? I saw this article on porn addiction and after I stopped laughing about the “how to get them to stop” part, I got to wondering why women don’t find porn as compelling as men.  That got me to wondering why women find romance novels so irresistible (and men mostly don’t). Let me give you the disclaimers first: Too much of just about anything can destroy a relationship: too much bowling, too much shopping, too much snoring.  I don’t happen to believe that porn or romance novels are innately evil, but they can give … Continue reading