Pick-Up Advice: Is It a Bad Thing?

There are always discussions going on over at The Good Men Project about ethical pick-up advice and whether socially-challenged men are “helped” by PUA (Pick-Up Advice) forums that portray woman as targets to be exploited (i.e the fastest way to get laid.) The shy (or otherwise challenged) “nice guys” claim that the (often morally iffy) advice helps them succeed in “real” relationships, and that if there were “better” places to get good advice they’d go there instead. So, a few female “experts” are handing out “better” advice, and the guys are shooting it down. It’s an enlightening (and entertaining!) read as long as you … Continue reading

Vampires & Vice

Have you read those headlines that warn: Porn Destroys Marriages or Romance Novels Ruin Relationships? I saw this article on porn addiction and after I stopped laughing about the “how to get them to stop” part, I got to wondering why women don’t find porn as compelling as men.  That got me to wondering why women find romance novels so irresistible (and men mostly don’t). Let me give you the disclaimers first: Too much of just about anything can destroy a relationship: too much bowling, too much shopping, too much snoring.  I don’t happen to believe that porn or romance novels are innately evil, but they can give … Continue reading