Fifty Shades of Nay

I just finished reading Fifty Shades of Grey by E.L. James and, try as I might, I couldn’t learn to like it. Like Twilight before it, I’m having a difficult time understanding how so many people (ok, mostly women, but I could be wrong) can read it without their suspension of disbelief crashing to the floor on every other page.  I had to keep scooping mine up, glueing it back together, and forcing it back into the story. Don’t get me wrong, I enjoy a good sex scene as much as the next consenting adult, and it’s a rare pleasure … Continue reading

10 Things Men Should Ignore

If you spend any time at all tootling around the information super-highway (remember when everyone use to call the Internet that?), then you’ve probably run into a “Top 10” list or two (or fifty).  We humans love to peer into the lives of perfect strangers to see if they agree with us (or, even better, to discover that they are lazy slobs, brazen hussies, or potential psychopaths.) Some of the most common “collections of advice” purport to teach us What Women Want, or Ten Things Women Need to Hear In Bed (e.g. “I’ll be right back: I have to put the wash in … Continue reading

Life’s Little Ups & Downs

Welcome to the 21st Century: No toothpaste, pocketknives, or snowglobes allowed.  (And beware the dreaded silk scarf.)  What am I talking about? TSA, of course. I like to travel, but I hate traveling to get there. It’s when I’m pushing a laptop, a raincoat, a pair of shoes, an iPad, an empty computer shoulder bag, a sweater, a silk scarf (“you have to take that off, too”), a ziplock baggy containing tiny bottles, a corkscrew (no blade), and a carry-on (now mostly empty) one-by-one through an x-ray machine that I find traveling to be particularly painful. And that’s not the worst of it. Because I refuse … Continue reading

Vampires & Vice

Have you read those headlines that warn: Porn Destroys Marriages or Romance Novels Ruin Relationships? I saw this article on porn addiction and after I stopped laughing about the “how to get them to stop” part, I got to wondering why women don’t find porn as compelling as men.  That got me to wondering why women find romance novels so irresistible (and men mostly don’t). Let me give you the disclaimers first: Too much of just about anything can destroy a relationship: too much bowling, too much shopping, too much snoring.  I don’t happen to believe that porn or romance novels are innately evil, but they can give … Continue reading

About This Blog

This late-night blog is about how people fit together (or not, as the case may be).  Topics include a variety of relationships (mostly human, but the world’s a zoo): Dating, marriage, sex, friendship, children, finding & staying in love, and cooking (go with me, it’s late.) You may ask: Why not stick with sex and call it good?  Well, as Robert Heinlein famously wrote: A human being should be able to change a diaper, plan an invasion, butcher a hog, conn a ship, design a building, write a sonnet, balance accounts, build a wall, set a bone, comfort the dying, take orders, … Continue reading